On the other hand, there are a few bloggers that use their blog as a breeding ground for negativity, and disclaim it by saying that "the readers want to know." Is this true? Are the readers really drawn to negativity like moths to a flame? If so, then that is pretty sad. When I come to read posts in the morning, I don't want to read something that's going to make me question if I'm liked by those I know. I don't want to read something that's going to make me insecure in who I am. I don't want to read something that makes me realize many people are apologizing for the things they do, just to make someone else happy.
First, when you create a title for a list of things you're suggesting for your readers, make it digestible. Don't make it something that is totally contradictory to what you're about to say. For example: Ten Reasons To Be NICE and Shut Your Mouth.
(this is my take on a certain blogger's list.)
We're already off to a great start.
If you're excited about sharing your testimony, go ahead and share it. Your life has changed for the better, why not tell people? Don't let anybody make you feel like the change in your life is not worth being heard. If they don't like it, all they're going to do is just go to their blog and write about it anyway. Blogs don't hurt, rather it's the blogger that is the one who is hurting.
2. "Be an open book."
Don't share your testimony, but be an open book? Contradicts, doesn't it? Funny thing about the human language is that people can say something and others will believe it. More important than being an open book is not believing in everything you hear, see, or read. Quotes like "You can't have good without bad" is a prime example of this. There is plenty of good without bad, you're just not looking hard enough.
3. "Stop being so political."
One's views of politics are different than others. If your perspective is only the mud-slinging campaign commercials you see on TV, then I feel sorry for you. We live in a democracy ruled over by a government, therefore politics are needed. WAR, ABORTION, GAY RIGHTS, SCHOOL FUNDING, THE ECONOMY, HEALTH CARE, etc. Whether we are political or not, these issues find their way into our daily conversations. It's OUR country, become educated in it.
4. "If you have, then give."
Great thought, but give a hitchhiker a ride? REALLY? Why don't you start by picking up a hitchhiker, and opening up yourself to being potentially raped and/or murdered. Or you can just live with the psychological damage of letting the truckers pick up the hitchhikers.
5. "If you DON'T have, then stop whining."
Where's the line between being a giver, and not wanting people to mooch off of you? Are you lacking on being thanked? Maybe that's your true motive. Maybe you need some new friends that are thankful for your giving heart, instead of taking advantage of it.
Not every body shape is the same. God made us all different for a reason. Some of us will never fit into a size 6 jeans, or be able to afford Jenny Craig or Weight Watchers. Only a few will make it to the Biggest Loser. We will always have insecurities. Don't talk like you know what it's like to be struggeling with a weight issue or an eating disorder. You can't fix your insecurities by starting with the outside; it starts on the inside first.
7. "Be magical."
The basic meaning behind this is do nice things for people. By writing a long list of complaints about people, and because of this some are insecure in who they are, YOU'RE NOT DOING NICE THINGS FOR PEOPLE.
8. "Grow a pair of balls."
Really? Basically you're saying if you have something to say, then say it. As long as it's not your testimony, anything political, any references towards your struggles with weight, or the things you don't have. Again with the contradictions. You sound more mixed up than you claim everyone else is.
9. "Be better than you are."
Some people are good just like they are. If you find yourself surrounded by people who suck, then maybe you need some new friends. If this is you, then maybe your friends need a new you!
10. "Life ends when you die."
Living with a "free, undying spirit" is contradictory towards "life ends when you die." You mention to not let others tell you how to live your life, yet your guilty of doing that exact thing.
Just because you're not using foul language doesn't mean your language isn't foul.
Keep in mind you have a platform, and you have people who are reading your words. You words can and will be used against you in some way. Would you rather be remembered as a critic, or someone who motivates with compliments instead of insults?
Remember kids, biscuits can catch more bees with honey than with vinegar.